Should you tell on a cheater?

If a friend’s current fiancée came on to you, would you tell your friend? I have read different opinions about this subject. As they say, there are two sides to every story. One side is to tell while the other side is to say nothing. I know you shouldn’t allow your friends to walk around looking like fools, but I am more partial to the latter solution.

Many years ago, my friend Steve was engaged to Andrea, the mother of his son. Although I had known Andrea longer, they were both childhood friends. I was a little surprised when they become a couple because she seemed more on the wild side than Steve; but, it’s often said that opposites attract.

Steve and Andrea discussed their marriage plans with me. Steve told me he had asked his friend Doug to be his best man. I told Steve I agreed with his choice since they were best friends.

I assumed Steven and Andrea were solid…I was wrong.

I got a knock on my door one evening. It was Doug. He had stopped by to ask for my advice about something.  He told me that Andrea had showed up at his house alone the previous day.

She told Doug that she loved Steve, but wanted to have a final sexual encounter with someone else first.

Doug was the guy she had chosen.

She told Doug it would be a one-time fling, and no one would ever know.  

He declined because he didn’t want to betray his friendship with Steve.

Although she was upset, she said she understood.

After she left, Doug didn’t know whether or not to tell Steve. He asked me what I would do.

After careful thought, I told Doug that he should tell his friend. Little did I know, my opinion ended their friendship.

Doug told Steve about the incident. Steve said Doug must have misunderstood.

Steve approached Andrea, who denied everything. She told Steve that Doug had invited her over and then asked for sex. She had flipped everything and called Doug a liar.

Steve believed Andrea.                       

The friendship ended.

I felt terrible for giving Doug bad advice. I should have told him to say nothing.  

Steve eventually learned that Andrea wasn’t marriage material because they never married.

He must have learned that Andrea wasn’t so wonderful.