Marriage is the main reason for divorce

Someone once said marriage is the main reason for divorce. This makes sense since nearly half of all first marriages end in divorce. And the odds are even worse for people on their second and third marriages. With such lousy odds, why not just flip a coin? Heads there’s a wedding—tales, Uncle Roy get his silverware back.

In some situations, divorce is the sad ending of a marriage once filled with promise. Have you ever heard anyone discuss divorce? The process compares to buying a new shirt. Although it fit in the store, it felt different after you bought it. And if it doesn’t fit, you can exchange it for another one. Marriage isn’t treated any differently.

Imagine this conversation:

“It’s just not working out with Steve and me.”

“I hear you girl, I just went through the same issues with Tony.”

“What did you do?”

“I exchanged him for Rex, my auto mechanic.”

“I think I will do the same and return Steve for a slimmer model with a larger wallet.”

Although this conversation seems foolish, it’s what couples do. They marry and divorce without a second thought because of a shift in how Americans feel about divorce. Before 1969, divorce wasn’t an option unless a spouse proved infidelity or abandonment. With the women’s rights movement of the late 60s, gender roles changed. Women began entering the work force and depending less on men.

In 1969, marriage and divorce changed forever after Governor Ronald Reagan signed California’s “no fault” divorce law. This meant Americans could divorce without proving infidelity or abandonment. Couples can now claim irreconcilable differences, which gives the couple a way out.

So why do so many people marry the wrong person? Why is our society so flawed about marriage? Do we love and honor our partners or do we only care about our own needs? There are many relationship books written for people who marry the wrong person. Once this occurs, your options are limited to either legal separation or divorce. Next to buying a home and having children, marriage is your most important decision. It will affect you and any future children.